What is attitude? It is what you think, believe, feel, expect, and
act, in relation to yourself, life, people, and your goals. Attitude can be positive or it can be negative; it can
be limiting or it can be expanding; if you have a positive attitude, you feel alive, well, loved, happy, liked,
confident,… you feel good; if you have a negative attitude, you feel angry, resentful, fearful, depressed, anxious,
hopeless,… you feel bad. Your feelings are your thermometer to your attitude and, as we will see below, your life
is the mirror to your attitude.
Now, how is your attitude, how is your dominant attitude? Is it positive, and expanding, or is it negative and
limiting? What do you think you can achieve? Who do you think you are? What do you think about yourself? What do
you think about other people? Do you think they are out there to get you or to help you? Do you expect to be liked
by people or do you expect to be 'judged'? Do you expect to be lucky? Do you expect to achieve your goals? Do you
expect that life is going to be difficult, that you will have to struggle to make money, or do you expect life is
wonderful and enjoyable?
In fact, a healthy attitude is when you feel good about yourself, when you know that you will achieve your goals,
when you know people will like and love you, when you know that things will work out, when you know you are
precious and the Universe is conspiring to your happiness. A healthy attitude is when you love people, when you
love yourself, when you thank God for who you are and for all the wonderful gifts you have, for all the people you
have in your life, for all that has happened to you, because that has made you the person you are today.
So, your attitude towards yourself has a strong impact on your self-love, on the way you treat yourself, and so, on
your health- mental, emotional, and physical. Your attitude towards people will have a strong impact on the
response you will get from them, because if you love them, if you are grateful, if you appreciate them, if you are
kind, they will love you back. So, three emotions are a key to great relationships: gratitude, kindness and love.
In fact, as the most important needs of any human being are the need for connection, the need to feel appreciated
and the need to feel loved, and everything that happens in your life happens through people, whether is in your
personal or professional life, you need to have a very positive attitude here. And this means always, really
always, look at the positive and best in people, you included. Look at the positive in people and circumstances,
and they will become that, you will take out the best from them, and you will attract more of that. And look at the
best in you, in how extraordinary and unique you truly are, look at your gifts, qualities and strengths, and you
will develop a healthy esteem and love for yourself.
And your attitude towards life will determine your success or failure, whether you will achieve your goals and be
the best you can be, or whether you are going to struggle. Now, your attitude towards your goals is also something
more than that, because the expectation of achievement whether is the person you want to become or a goal you want
to achieve makes you become that person and achieve what you want before you actually have done it. It is the Law
of Attraction. And the more you have expectations and you take actions to achieve your goals, the faster you are
going to achieve them. So, let us suppose you want to be confident or you want to be successful, if you have the
attitude and the expectations of being confident and successful, you are going to feel confident and successful
already now. It is simply a shift in your consciousness.
Now, let us suppose you have developed a healthy attitude towards yourself, life, people, and your goals. What do
you do when you encounter negative people or negative circumstances? What do you do when somebody gets angry at
you? What do you do when you are driving and someone cuts in your way? Well, we need to develop an immune attitude,
learn to be immune to negativity. You need to learn not to let anything disturb your peace of mind. You can simply
ignore it and smile it away. And think that things are temporary, that if you have a great attitude, you will
create a life where you have all that you desire and deserve, a wonderful life, guaranteed.
Piercarla Garusi is a Life Coach, NLP Master Practitioner, Hypnotic Practitioner, Director of PG Coaching Ltd. She
is passionate about helping you be well, connect with your soul, be the extraordinary person you truly are, develop
your spirituality and create a life that makes you truly happy. She also runs workshops on the above topics. For
more information please visit: http://www.pgcoaching.co.uk, info@pgcoaching.co.uk